A Beautiful Way To End Your Day

After a whole day’s hard work and hassles, when you are tired and worn out, you need some time to relax in peace. That certainly is not the time to find fault with each other or to correct each other. If someone points your faults at that time, you will not be happy to listen to that. Instead, if you can get a word of appreciation, that would enliven your heart and it may give you the motivation to look into your blemishes. It is the same with your partner. A good word can give your partner enthusiasm and energy to improve rather than blaming and corrections. So let your day end with a word or mutual appreciation.

This is what you can do. Offer each other a ‘Gift of appreciation’.  Think of  two or three things you partner has done well during the day or during recent weeks or think of two or three good qualities of your partner and say, “I like you for  …..” or “I appreciate you because you did ……” or something like that. Be frank and genuine in your appreciation.  Empty praise will do more harm than good.

You may say that you do not  see anything praiseworthy in your partner. In that case, see if you are positive or negative in your outlook.  If you are positive you will find many good things for which your partner deserves praise and appreciation. So, if you are not able to find anything good in your partner it may be an indication that your outlook is negative. If you are negative in your thinking you need to work on changing your perception and your attitude.

Suppose one day you had an argument with your partner and you are reminded  of your mate’s harsh words and hurting behaviour. Naturally you are not in a mood to praise your partner.  But don’t you think that this is the time to make up and rebuild your relationship ?  Try  to soften your mind, put aside your hard feelings  and end the day on a note of harmony with peace and renewed love.  You will find that eventually you will have less conflicts.

Offer your mutual ‘Gift of appreciation’ placing your hand in your partner’s hand or on the shoulder and  feel the touch of your partner. Feel the warmth and become aware that God is present in your union. Do not think of anything else. Just be aware of the touch of your partner and the warmth and say together softly,  “You, (God) are with us here and now” or “Fills us, God, with your love” or “Keep us, Lord, in your love.”  Feel the presence of God in your oneness and believe that His love is filling and uniting both of you into an intimate union. The more you become aware of God’s presence in your intimacy, the more  intimate you will become and you will experience a heavenly peace and joy.